Safe.

The world surrounding us frequently nips safety away from us; we constantly fear getting fired from our jobs, not sustaining our lifestyle, getting bad grades at school or even get mocked by others for our views and opinions. These cues shatter our sense of safety, making us afraid, in perpetual worry and doubt of what tomorrow will bring.

Personally, I’ve been raised to fear life. I’d always hear advice like: “prepare for the bad days”, “expect the worst”, “life is hard”, etc. I’m not saying that those pieces of advice are irrelevant— no, they reflect truth in miscellaneous ways, only the fact that they instil so much fear is what I don’t agree upon. In retrospect, I wonder about the root cause of my anxiety and think: is it because my mind is unconsciously befuddled with this fear? Though it’s substantially better, I do often fall into lapses of being scared from growing up, becoming an adult and having to face such ridiculous situations and be traumatised by them, like the ones I see around me.

Perhaps it’s because at one point in my life, I was never safe dealing with my thoughts. Growing up, I had so many questions and dealt with confusion and had no support whatsoever in overcoming them. I keep imagining myself in that situation when I’m older, though I know better that I’ve learned how to cope in the most positive way possible.

We need safety. We need to feel attached and grounded to where we belong, and when that lacks we struggle with emptiness and loss of direction, which are states that are hinder our potentials from being the best versions of ourselves and attaining fulfilment.

With those recurring fears, I believe it is cardinal to find my sources of safety. I was too immature before to know where it laid and wasn’t able to direct and manage my own mind. However, I know that I’m safe writing, listening to calming music, walking, observing nature, communicating with loved ones and helping others express themselves. Incorporating those activities into my daily life allows me to feel whole and purposeful, without having to deal with emptiness nor confusion.

We need to ensure we acknowledge the fact that whatever happens in life, we are safe. We are protected by being alive and nothing awful can happen to us. We just need to be completely aware of where to turn when we are trialled and taken past our zeals. It’s okay to rewind and just feel safe, calm and loved. It’s healthy and necessary.

Nevertheless, your safety needs to sprout from within you. Looking out for someone else to provide you with the emotional security you’re craving will never help, but rather attach you to emotions that aren’t your own. We need to, as individuals, indulge in periods of introspection and realise what makes us feel inherently happy and satisfied in order to thrive and cross those illusionary limits that we set for ourselves, only because we’ve been socialised and taught to do so when in reality, there aren’t limits at all to what lies out there. Everything is possible.

To feel safe in your visualisations of what is to come should be your goal— try your best not to feel overwhelmed or tired out by the upcoming possibilities. The world will grant what you need when you’re ready. We just need to have this unrelenting faith and belief that everything will be alright.

It’s perfectly fine to heal and start anew; just make sure your heart is safe enough to express itself along the way. Magic will unfold, hearing what it has to say.